Wednesday, November 15, 2017

{ Forgiveness in the Life of a Mother, Part 2 - Broken and Contrite Heart }

Yesterday I talked about when we are offended what is the best thing to do. Today I want to talk about when we make offense to another person.

It would also be good to remember that you probably will offend someone else some time in your life. That is a good time to ask for forgiveness as soon as you are alerted to the fact that you have offended the party whether through God or the other person. Reconciliation must take place between Christians in order for the Lord’s work to be carried out.

I know in my own life, I have been offended and also have made offenses towards someone else, either intentional or unintentional. I have always made it a point to forgive the other person in my heart before it is even asked for and also to ask for forgiveness.

Sometimes though, the other person has been alerted to something that you didn’t even do and something that has been misquoted or misrepresented. What about then?

What if you were wrong on one account but being accused of something else altogether different? What about when other people are involved and seeds of discord have been sown within the brotherhood through gossip or misunderstandings? The thing that you can do is to forgive them and not hold bitterness in your heart against all involved. Also, make it a point to ask for forgiveness on the wrong that you did do but not the false accusations against you. Do not take offense.

Matthew 5:11-12, “Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.”

Of false accusations John the Baptist said in Luke 3:14, “ And the soldiers likewise demanded of him, saying, and what shall we do? And he said unto them, Do violence to no man, neither accuse any falsely, and be content with your wages.”

1 Peter 3:16, “Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.”

Yes, as Christians we shouldn’t even speak falsely against anyone. If we do speak falsely, we should not expect the person we have spoken falsely against to apologize for the false accusations against them.

When Jesus was accused falsely, he held his tongue and spoke not a word against what they were saying in Matthew 26:63. In 26:64 he spoke the truth and they still accused him of blasphemy. In 27:11-14, He was asked by Pilate if He was king of the jews and He said, ‘Thou sayest.” The chief priests and elders accused him more and Jesus answered nothing. Then Pilate asked him if He was hearing what they were accusing him of and He still said nothing. In three of the four gospels he didn’t argue back or answer the false accusations. So, this action of Christ tells me that when we are accused of something we did not do, it is best to just say nothing against the accusations and only speak to the truth.

This is where it gets pretty hard in the life of a believer. This is when we have to rely on God that He has done what He says he will do with our sins. He doesn’t require sacrifices but what He does require is in Psalm 51:17, “ The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and contrite heart O God, thou wilt not despise.” He forgives our sins as far as the east is to the west.

If we have asked for forgiveness from our offended brothers on the matters that we have done, and if we have asked God for forgiveness then next step is to accept the forgiveness and learn from our mistakes. We cannot keep holding onto the hurt because there is no room for our hurts and forgiveness together.

I hope this helps you as it has helped me.  In case you missed part one...
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  1. What a great series. Forgiveness is a key part of being a follower of Christ. You have presented the topic well. Thanks for sharing at Home Sweet Home!

    1. Thank you for your kind words. It is only by God's grace that I write about forgiveness. I am glad to share at Home Sweet Home.