Tuesday, November 14, 2017

{ Forgiveness in the Life of a Mother, Part 1 - Skinned Knees }

Forgiveness in the Life of a Mother, Part 1 - Skinned Knees...
Now I know everyone has probably felt this at one time or another. That feeling you get when one of your children has been hurt by another child, whether on purpose or on accident. It is a completely natural human emotional response to bring out the mother-bear claws and want to do something about it. But you can’t because the offending party is just a little child and the proper response is to forgive them instead of react. Or maybe the hurt or harm has been done to you. I am sure you know that feeling as well. The proper response also, then is to automatically forgive your offender.

It can be hard. We are only spiritual beings inside a human body. We have emotions and feelings that sometimes, if left unto themselves, run away. That in turn can and will cause bitterness to rise up within us and “rot our bones“. A bitter believer is hardly effective as a witness to others.

“Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord: Looking diligently lest any man fail the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.”

The bible is very clear in warning us that we must forgive those who have wronged us. Matthew 6:15, “But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Well, that is pretty clear but in Mark 11:25-26 we read, “And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have aught against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.”

Forgive fully and restore any loss of fellowship. Forgive without waiting so that bitterness will not spring up inside of your heart. The offender should not even have to come to you before you forgive them. The heart of Christ and the mind of Christ, which is what we as christian mothers should have, needs no apology before forgiveness can be given.

As He was on the cross, He had the ultimate heart of love and forgiveness when He said, “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34)

Before you were even born or your offender was even born….”But God commanded His love towards us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

Forgive as soon as you can. First in your heart and then with your mouth. Don’t delay forgiveness and reconciliation. Don’t forgive on a probation or provisional scale. Thinking…..well, if they would do this then I will forgive them. That just leads to bitterness.

As offended parties, the Bible does tell us that we must speak to the one who offended us, “Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.” (Matthew 18:15). Which means we really shouldn’t pass on our hurts or forgiveness to the other through someone else. That would be the first path of least resistance to bitterness.

The second path is when you are hurt more than one time. Jesus told Peter, when he asked the question of how many times should I forgive my offender, “I say not unto thee until seven times, but, until seventy times seven times.” (Matthew 18:22) Don’t just hold onto the hurt, forgive.

Be alert to the verse James 3:2, “for in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.” You will be offended over the course of your life. Especially by words and deeds done to you. If you learn how to forgive the way Jesus forgives, then you will be better off.

Forgiveness is clearing the record of those who have wronged me and allowing God to love them through me.* The opposite is bitterness and rejection. They can’t feel the love of God and all of His power of forgiveness and reconciliation if we don’t show it.

I hope this helps you as studying on forgiveness has helped me. Come back tomorrow for part two.

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